Do We Really Connect? Do We Really Want to Connect? 


Written December 2015 and here I am months later with no new post and months later I still feel I have not done what I feel drawn to do. So I will edit and post the following no matter what. Then I will work to continue to post and find my way.


When I set this blog up I had thought I may be able to be more supportive. I haven’t and I apologize for that. It was about that time I had learned I have cancer. There seemed to be very little support in my local area to be found at the time. After over a year I am still not sure how much support in the form I was seeking there is. Do I really know what form that support is or will be?

There are cancer groups out there in different forms. So, why in all this time have I not been able to find that one group offline or online that feels possibly the one? There are technical groups that share links or information about the technical information but not always the type of information I need to be reading. For one it may be to overwhelming with technical information and jargon. Some do not make it seem very promising at times.

Then there are some that appear supportive and they are. Problem with those is the membership is so large people seem to become lost in all the members in those. It is more helpful but there are so many members it’s hard to really make any sorta bond which is what I may be searching to find.

So that brings me to the facts of even with loads of individuals in a group one can still feel alone on this journey. It seems we become so focus on our journey which has so many crooks and turns. Those crooks and turns keep us more isolated them bonded. And maybe the truth is we don’t want bonds because we find the bonds suck our energy which becomes very precious and sometimes it feels as if it is nonexistent?

So what do we want? What will help and be more supportive on this journey? Although this post doesn’t read the way I am about to share this next feeling, I work to stay as positive as possible. That falters more than it actually works. Some of the negative feelings and thoughts come from new medications. This makes me so leery of almost all new medication. Medications which have no connection to the cancer at this time.

So what am I, what are we, as cancer patients really seeking in relationships with others? Maybe just some sort of understanding? Understanding in the form that others in our lives understand our journey? How can they? If they aren’t cancer patients with incurable or high incurable cancer rate, they won’t understand.

While they really may think they understand and know how it is, they don’t. I know because when I was an outsider to this life, I thought I understood more. I found out once I was diagnosed with cancer that I had and still at times have no clue about this life. And what makes the knowledge of that worse, the outsiders really have no clue! They think because most of the time we give the appearance with them all is well, it’s just another day in our lives much like another day in theirs. It’s not!

Even now when I look at my brother, a cancer patient too,  when we are together I find myself wondering how he feels about it? Does he have the same feelings as myself. He was the one who labeled non-cancerous individuals as “The Outsiders”. But as I sit here writing this, “Are they the outsiders or are we?”

Most of the time I feel as if I  no longer belong to be around others. I feel as if I am in a glass space or a cage or something looking in on their world. No longer a part of that world that I seem to have left behind. And stranger still I feel I am not a part of the cancer people’s world either. So where do I fit into the world? Where do I and where have I or when have I ever felt as if I fit into any part of the world?

From the few conversation with a dear friend, a friend who for a long time seemed to have it all together. Not saying her world did not have ups and downs, she just seemed pulled together enough or in touch with her emotional, feeling side to appear so strong all the time. As if nothing could push her off the high view of the waterfall where she loves to go and find her strength. She would and could never fall.

Well, this friend has been sharing her times of lack of strength and togetherness. She shows more of her true strength now and I look to her stories she shares to find my true strength. She is showing she is as vulnerable as myself in her life and she uses that vulnerability to learn more about herself. I do the same but have always felt that was a show of my weakness even though maybe all the time it was my true strength.

My strength because although it hurts deeply at times, I was and am learning, growing. If I were not doing that, feeling the pain, learning and growing then what? I would soon find myself not breathing? Right? So, I must find reassurance,self assurance, support, respect, strength and so much more within myself. Not seek this from others as much as I should be seeking it within myself.

And with that and the fact I must think on what I just shared with you and with myself at the same time, I will end here. I will end to go and process these thoughts. To learn from these thoughts and become a stronger person in this world. A person not feeling guilty for her feelings. Sharing her deep inner feelings in hopes these feelings may help others traveling different roads of cancer or other areas of their lives.

You don’t  have to have cancer or anything deadly to get something from these shared words. It is how we all may feel at times in our lives. Right? So hopefully, you came to read this at a time when the words touch you and help you in this life journey. That’s all my dream is for this site and post. It is to share and help myself while in that process it helps someone else in the process. You are not alone in your emotions and feelings.

Peace and Blessings to you and everyone,



Forgetful and Communication

When I came here to write this post, I had an idea to write and share.  I have many ideas to share float into and out of my mind throughout the day about what I want to share.  The problem is by the time I get here to write the post then it’s gone.  Yes, just that fast!

Upon having the thought minutes before I had an idea for writing something here and my mind was telling me this was really good and I had to share it.  Then upon getting here and that thought now it’s gone.  Lately, I feel as if I am not able to keep my thoughts together enough and sometimes I can’t even think of the right words to use. Not that it’s that easy at other times to remember but the last couple months have been extremely hard. No, it’s not because of the CLL and treatments for it because I am still on the W&W (Wait and Watch or is it Watch and Wait?) for  CLL changes to warrant treatment.

Although, part of what may be happening is it may be time to increase the dose of my medicine for my ADHD.  It has been years since it was increased because I tend to push to not take medications and or treatments until I absolutely have to do so.  It may be time to discuss with my primary doctor to increase my dose now.  I have anxiety doing so and that is another long story and I don’t think I want to dwell there for this post.

Am I going to have a point for this post?  Right now, I’m not sure.  I could go off on so many topics.  I stop myself because I don’t want to get on a whining bit and be totally boring which some topics may be.  Then while I am writing that I’m not going to whine or be negative I am asking myself if it may be helpful to others reading this?  I’m sure some of you have some of my same issues in life.

So this brings me to wonder?consider and prepare what I may want to share with ya’ll today.  Guess I could start with the fact I went to the doctor last Tuesday.  Was it a good visit, yes and no.  Yes, because I was told my lab results look as if it may be a good while before treatment would have to start.  My lab test were all very good and I could tell that from looking at it before seeing the doctor.  I know some of you have bad results and therefore have already started treatments.  I feel  and have felt a bit guilty when I think about sharing this type of good news with you.

Why do I feel guilt sharing good news with possible readers who don’t have good news?  Because I am still able to say I am setting on the starting line of all this.  I have much less to share about the CLL and treatment because I haven’t even gotten away from what I am considering the starting line.  Then there are those of you who have gone through… ????? what term would or do you use?  gulling treatments. I know it is not easy because having watched other relatives, friends, etc. go through them.

Well, that said about what to write then I guess I may just write from my thoughts which has worked in the past when I wrote on a regular basis many, many, many years ago. Lately, I am having bad bouts of depression.  It has not been easy and my internal self wants to make me feel bad for those feelings and thoughts.  In some ways I have no right to be depressed and in others I don’t. Right now there is a lot happening for me and I am not dealing well with how to handle the situations.  I feel overwhelmed so that may be a part of the depression.

Oh, am I getting into negative talk?  Yes, guess I am and that is part of life, right?  We can’t avoid negative feelings, thoughts and talk indefinitely.  I have issues with that too.  I don’t want to be negative all the time, although, I have the DNA gene of a worrier working against me. 😦

Yes, I would prefer to be a 100% positive and happy person.  Who wouldn’t? It’s just a bit harder for some to do that…me for example.  I am the type person who has a lot of  sentences using the word but or similar in them.  I want to be positive and happy only but… You know that kind of person?  I know it is not good to be with others and be a  sentence maker with a but in many of them.  So, I was and I have worked on it and brought the use down some “but” not as much as I would like.

Where I have problems with this being positive and happy all the time when being with others is taking people like that as truthful individuals and are they hiding something? Or just trying to be nice and bring sunshine to others.  There are those that you can tell they are making a hard effort at it and it’s not how they are at home, most probably.  I know there has to be a happy medium to being a sunshine person and a “but” person.

BUT haha you know those people I am talking about that will lie rather than tell the truth  if it is a negative truth because it is not portraying them as a happy person. Those individuals that want people to enjoy being with them because they are happy and never gloomy?  I know my way hasn’t worked for me or others and I am working on it.  I just don’t want to be fake and not really be me, the happy me mostly, hopefully.  And yes, I know others will not want to be around me as much and sheez, I don’t want to be around me as much.  LOL

So, I don’t like talking with those people as much who are so UP all the time like nothing ever is wrong and it seems such an effort for them. I don’t want to be like that either.  I want it to seem as if it is natural for me.   Yeah, I know, it is just as likely people don’t like to be with someone using “but” all the time either and it seems natural for them to see the negative to things.  That’s why it concerns me and I am working on it constantly.

As for my use of “but”, for now, I have come to the conclusion that my use of “but” sentences are not meant to be a downer.  They are really my way, or at least in my thoughts of why I do it, my way to  protect, take care of others.  For example, I may say something like,  “That sounds good  ‘but’ it may not happen because blah blah blah.”  Why can’t I stop at “sounds good “?  Honestly, I try really hard to do that and am finding if stop and ask myself some questions about how important the extra comment is before I open my mouth it helps.

What kind of questions? Something like, if I don’t add the but or down side to the end of an answer, will it cause the person harm? Serious harm that will be unable to change? Will they be fine if it should happen?  What are the chances of whatever I add, to the but sentence, happening? In reality of my learning this about myself, I am finding that maybe the “but” part rarely happens. So, drop it then!!! Right? Easier said than done “but” (haha} I am stopping more and more and maybe that will make my relationships  and interactions more enjoyable.

And I was told by one therapist to drop the but and we hadn’t even had the conversation about my use of it.  She already picked up my possible overuse of it when I first started seeing her.  She was right about my overuse of it and I had to or have to drop it as much as possible.  It is not easy to stop using it in some sentences and I realized maybe she didn’t mean I had to drop it completely from every sentence.  I needed to drop it a lot of the time though.  Must find a happy middle ground.

Right now, when someone ask me how I am, I take it the person really wants to know.  Do people really want to know?  Guess if they do then they would ask their question differently.  Maybe with something like, “How is your health lately?”  “How are things with __________ ?” (Insert a father, mother, sister, brother, etc into the blank.)  The question would be more direct.

As for me, I am the type person who figures it you want to share your situation, information about your life with me then you will.  I should not be nosy and ask you a hundred questions about your life.  You just may not want to share.  I am learning that most of the time that does not work because people have to have prompting questions in order to maybe feel comfortable sharing some information.  What do you think?

Okay, I don’t know how I got onto this topic.  It’s not the topic I came to write about and I still do not remember what it was so maybe it will return another time.  For now, I am going to end this and come back when and as I have more to share and hope you are all doing well.  Hope you have a nice weekend too.


Peace and Blessings,


Filé and Cancer

Today, I received a call from a cousin who is one of those so close to you that they feel she is more a sister than a cousin. I have a few of those in my family. She and I had talked last night for hours! Because we were unable to connect since Thanksgiving. I know that doesn’t sound as if we are that close right? Problem is she and I are on diffe T sleep schedules and haven’t wanted to disturb the other one then with the time of year we are kept very busy. 

Well, she called me a few minutes ago and I had to return her call because I didn’t hear it. Another of the ways we haven’t connected until now. She called to tell about a bottle her sister had found almost hidden on top and to the back of a cabinet. Her sister has just moved into their parents home. So she is cleaning it up and she found this bottle. The bottle had a label on it and on the label it was written the words, “made by Leola and Lavern in 1996”. Inside this bottle was filé (Fee-Lay) my aunt and my father made just two years before he passed away. 

Filé is a very common spice found in many of the pantries here on the coast of Mississippi. My father and I would go out and collect the leaves off the trees then bring back the leaves and many times actual limbs off the trees. The limbs and leaves were laid around inside the house to dry. One of the first memories I have of making filé with dad still is etched into my brain. I loved doing these type of activities with my dad. 

So, why am I sharing this? Because it brings back the fact my father passed away 2 years after he and my aunt apparently gathered the leaves and made this filé. I’m sad because I was not a part of that adventure. That thought made me start to question why I wasn’t and why I really didn’t know they had did this until after my father passed away and this is not the first time I heard about this batch they made. 

What I have been thinking is about that time I was staying home a lot. I barely had energy to get out of bed each day. Was it so bad, my father didn’t ask me to go because he knew I felt bad? That leads me to many thoughts and questions about cancer, his and mine. Did I have the cancer then? Did my father have cancer then? If he had cancer then was he as fatigued as I was? I know in time he had shown signs of his cancer which he and we did not find out until 3 weeks before he passed away. 

All those questions have me wondering how he was able to do that outing. I believe we both had been showing signs of our cancers but just had no diagnosis or the correct diagnoses. I am pretty sure I had been showing signs since 1980’s and my father had around that same time. It took his having surgery for sleep apnea to have him diagnosed and then 3 weeks was all he loved from the time he was told. At that time I was told I had chronic fatigue and kept running a temperature so did not want to make him sick and did not get to spend those last days with him. In my mind we would have at least a few months like we did with my mother when she passed of cancer. Yes, my mother too! 

So, how long do we walk around with cancer and medical individuals overlook what maybe should be checked in the beginning?  I knew almost immediately when I saw my lab test in January 2014. Of course, I went into a bit of denial about it and it took me until June that year to finally find a doctor to listen to me and send me to an oncologist so at the very least we could rule oit cancer. With all the cancer in my family health history I knew that was a big possibility but did attempt to stay positive about it all. And ended up we proved I had cancer rather than ruling it out. 

This makes me wonder because of the timing with my parents rather they really could be classified as passing from brain cancer. They were found to have lung cancer first but upon death they seem to rule the cause of death as the last Cancer to show up which is brain cancer for many, I think, or should you die while having a heart attack then that is listed as cause of death. To me it becomes another form of “what came first,” the chicken or the egg. 

Right now, I am so tired and not entirely sure I am making any form of sharing others will enjoy reading or if it makes sense. I hope it does and hope it is helpful in some way to another person. Even if it is only entertaining and or helpful to one person I will feel satisfied to have shared this with you. 

If I don’t write again between now and Christmas, best wishes for a safe and healthy Christmas for all of you. My prayers are with everyone to have their best, healthiest holiday to date and same for the new year. 

Peace and Blessings,


It Will Be Alright!

It will be alright, MeMe, my brilliantly, overly, smart 9 year old grandson said to me last Thursday.  He was referring to some homework he had left  blanks in the work.  I was trying to tell him the blanks will count off for him and that his grade would suffer from it. So right about now you are wondering, brilliantly, overly, smart?  How can that be if he is not filling in the work required which will be graded.

Not sure on that one other than his words are ringing in my ears here at 5:36 AM and have all night. It will be okay, I hear him say with such confidence. Oh how I want to believe those words.  How I want to believe in my faith in God to do just that.  To make this okay, the cancer you may be thinking right now.  That’s part of the request right now but no, something that is taking presidence over that part of my life and may for a while to come.

Tonight I returned home and found a little less than half my house was and is flooded.  “It will be okay.” the sweet voice of my grandson says.  “Have faith in God to not give you more than you may handle.”  “He will never give you more than you may be able to deal with at a time.”

So what is to much?  What is my limit? I am going on no rest and I was up early Sunday morning to attend church with a cousin that I spent the weekend at her husband’s and her home.  It was a wonderful weekend.  That was until I returned home to an overwhelming task and it continues to grow as I write this.  What is my amount of this stress, disappointment, continual steps backward is enough?

All this said I am remaining to attempt to stay optimistic and pray for the best outcome.  Right now I just want to rest and I must continue to vacuum up water that seems to be doing very little to relieve the amount of was.And add to this in the morning or is that this morning I must go to a new doctor for a possible diagnosis of another cancer on top of the two I have already and the one I had diagnosed last year and removed from my face.

The one today will be a possible spot of cancer in my mouth. Then there is another spot on my knee I have yet to be tested for possible cancer. Do any more lurk within my body? Should I just give up, right here and right now? What is the point?

The point is I will not give up. I will continue and I will face each and ever crook in my road as it comes.  Right now, I am facing my body telling me it needs rest.  I keep dozing off and waking up as I type. Ha. “It will be alright.” The voice of my grandson and God reassure me.  Deep breath!

These detours are put before me to possibly keep me on track in my life, to help me to learn something or to help others learn from my life.  I know there is some possible reason and a very good one.

So what might I learn from this? That I end up with a really clean home? That some individuals in my life truly do care and want to help me then others are maybe less likely to do so. I may learn who will be there when I seriously need their support. This is real fear  for me. I just don’t know who will be there for me when I need their help. So far one cousin and my oldest baby sister will be there because they were Sunday night when I called about the flooded home. They both offered and my oldest baby sister came over to help me attempt to clean the mess. This is a relief and has helped me.

It has been a humbling experience because I am not one to ask for help. Well, I had to ask tonight if only for them to listen.  I was receiving the same type of message from each of them…It will be alright. In a year this will be a faint memory.  For now, I must figure out how I am to make my doctor’s appointment and get this mess cleaned up. That’s if I am able to stay awake.  If I even slept at this moment I would only have about an hour or two to rest.

Oh my gosh, things that don’t seem to be having water in the area are now absorbing water, boxes and papers. I heard a big crash type sound and it a stack of box type storage. Guess I need to rethink using paper, boxes, etc!  Oh my goodness and again I hear, “It will be alright!”  Really? I question all the while I really deep down know or want to believe it will be true. Deep breath!

Well, I have started a wash of wet clothes and I am about to absorb more water which truthfully seems a failed attempt.  As I told my oldest baby sister and cousin, it’s like throwing a donut to a drowning person in a huge sea.  It just doesn’t seem enough. It has made it’s way into another bedroom! Soon it will take over the whole carpeted places.  Did I happen to say how much I dislike carpet?  Really, I do and I realllllly don’t like it now!!!  I want it out and I want it out as of last week!  To late…’It will be alright.” I repeat to myself. And now I will be off to hopefully get everything possible up and off floor that may otherwise be damaged beyond use. 😦

Peace and Blessings,


Can’t Sleep

Yes, my sleep is at its worse right now and has been a problem for me for months now.  Recently, I did have a few days where I was able to sleep and I mean like two or three. During those days I could not help but think I was going to get more improved sleep.  It was short lived and I am now back into the non-sleeping phase and it’s not one that I am enjoying Oor giving me the nurtured sleep I require. It’s hard enough to keep my brain working properly with better sleep and then now add to it the lack of sleep then it’s even harder to keep things straight and to do things right.

Yesterday, I had a doctors appointment with an orthopedic Nurse Practioner to have my knee checked. Well, I thought it was gonna be a simple case of a cyst on my knee which would need draining. Of course, it seems once you have cancer nothing goes as expected, does it. Now I am scheduled for an MRI to see if a white spot on my knee that showed up on the x-ray is cancer or not.

Of course, it seems once you have cancer nothing goes as expected. Now I am scheduled for an MRI to see if a white spot on my knee that showed up on the  x-ray is cancer or not. I was told it is usually a benign tumor. Hearing that is it really supposed to make me feel better? I’m not sure if it helps to hear that, I guess it can’t hurt.  I’m scheduled for an MRI on Thursday afternoon. It will have to be rescheduled because I have something else to do that day.

(Note: Yes, I appear  to have repeated myself a lot in those last two paragraphs.  Guess that shows how tired I was last night.)

So after that bit of news I found myself craving more and more sugar early last afternoon. This seems to be my go to food for comfort or whatever it does for me. I know  sugar is the worst food for cancer patients or anyone really. It seems that some studies show sugar feeds the cancer cells. So I know I shouldn’t be eating it, I can’t seem to help myself and so I make my usual sugar run to the local Doollar  General. This sugar phrase will go on for maybe weeks or it could be less. I never know.

Unbelievable, I find myself falling asleep as I try to write this. I will give into the body’s need and I’ll try to turn over and rest, that usually doesn’t happen. Instead my mind starts to wander into other thoughts  which keep me awake. Something I have been using is Essential  Oils which help with my rest and many other issues. The problem is  I haven’t gotten them on a consistent regular routine schedule which will help a lot with everything. And I’m not sure why I find it so difficult to get myself on schedule within my life especially now.

(Started writing again this morning.)

So, at some point after writing the last paragraph I apparently fell asleep. It was sometime in the wee hours of the morning.  I haven’t really had great sleep since before  my  diagnosis August 11, 2014  and this was just another night like all the rest of them, no real restful sleep. I wonder at times, is it the normal way most people sleep when they have the cancer cells traveling through their body?

You see, I’m not sure because I’ve never been one to sleep very well at night. Or I should say sleep at a decent hour in the night and get up in a decent hour in the morning?  For me, I am more a night person wanting to be a day person because when I have been able to be awake in the morning at a decent hour I enjoyed the day so much more.  Or at least the morning hours are nice then I could probably still sleep in the middle of the day and get up later and be quite happy, I think.

For now, all I know is my sleep  habits  are not working for me. I’m not getting good sleep anytime of the day or night.   My activities support that I’m not getting good sleep because I have a great difficulty with my mind and not remembering well and not being able to do things. Yes, one could say it’s because of the age but on occasions where I have been able to rest a little bit deeper and with enough sleep I found my brain functions well. It’s not 100% ever because it doesn’t happen enough nights in a roll to help to that degree.  But at least when it happens it works better than what I’m getting now.

Right now, I’m finding this difficult to write because my mind is going 50 million different ways to numerous thoughts. Maybe it’s because I need to get up take my medicine which will help me focus because that’s what my medicine do.  I guess I’m kind of maybe repeating myself so I will end this post at this point to keep from boring you to death.

It’s funny when I used the word death  I immediately thought, is this going to bother someone to read the word death. It may bother someone but as for me it does not bother me in this context.   So if the word bothers you then let me know how you feel about it, I would love to hear. My best to all of you who are dealing with cancer in anyway, rather as a caregiver, patient or in whatever capacity.

Peace and Blessings,

Question for the Readers and a Good Rant never hurt? Right?

Well, what do you know? I made it back pretty fast to make another post and not months later.  Partly, it is thanks to you, the readers.  You have made me wonder what brought you to this blog when I made the last post? Do you have cancer? Does someone you love have cancer? Or none of the above and were just surfing the blogs only to land here?  Or are you just trying to pick up more followers?  Hoping I would follow you? Is picking up followers that important, btw?

So, those questions out-of-the-way, now what?  Ah and then I asked another question. LOL  Guess I am unable to get away from them tonight. Have I filled you in on my history? Or at least part of it?  Hmmm   More questions! Will she ever stop, you may ask? Maybe and maybe not. LOL  Maybe I kinda like them at times, can you tell?  In some ways it makes me feel more connected to the readers. Crazy, I know!

Honestly, I have no idea right now what I will share or discuss.  There is so much going on in my life and some of it is my doing!  What was I thinking?!?!?!?!?!?! To add a lot of excess stuff to my life which needs mega attention?  Now, you may consider me crazy for that!  Guess it wasn’t all my doing, really. It had family, couple friends or so on and therapist and doctors.  They thought I should make friends and get out of the house. (She rolls her eyes at that advice and thoughts.)

Here I find out I have cancer, right? Then I am attempting to deal with what that entails.  So while doing that my internist and I decide I may need to seek help from a therapist to deal with some health issues which may be due to stress, anxiety, etc.  You think? LOL They are all telling me to add friends and places to do things which may help me to make some friends.  That many people can’t be wrong, right? Do they have cancer? NO! (Again, she rolls her eyes.)

And I go to the therapist to help with my hypertension which will not go down to any number the doctors and other medical individuals will accept. I’m pretty much okay with my hypertension readings.  The therapist joins the make new friends, bandwagon and I have had issues with hypertension since my early 20’s so why worry now?  I have had almost ever test conceived checking for damage to my body and nada!  I am fine and my heart, kidneys, everything is fine except, I have this thing called CANCER!  Should we mention the people in my life who may be the major issue causing the hypertension? LOL

So, what is their problem?  They can’t seem to focus on the medical reason I may be there to seek attention from them.  Which is stuff like breathing issues, cold, flu, sinuses, etc. or even stress! Sheez. They’ve sent me out so many times with more medicines for the hypertension and nothing for the main issue I am there to see them about at present.  Plus the medicines don’t usually work and cause me a ton more health issues.  I am so over that!

So guess this became a whine session about the medical people?  They are not all bad and I know they think they are taking care of me.  I think they are part of the reason I have the problem in the first place.  Because first I have white coat syndrome, duh. LOL  Then I have stress of each visit just seeing them and knowing they will hyperfocus on the hypertension and not what I would like them to focus their attention on at this visit.  I don’t want or need any more medication!!!  Hello! My body, my life, shouldn’t I have a choice here, what to take and not take without a threat of losing other medications which keep me sane! Or healthy? Etc!

Let’s say instead of hypertension, they want to do a treatment for the cancer. So I have the right to say no to treatment, right? As far as I know, I think I am able to refuse the treatment, right? Why can’t I do that with treatment for hypertension or anything else? I mean I am taking medication for it, isn’t that enough.  I am fine with this one pill and even if they want me to make it a  stronger dose.  So why not allow me to choose? Really, people.

Honestly, I think it’s the government’s fault! It is regulating everything so much they are making these poor doctors feel they can’t just do what is right!  Then the patients have to jump through hoops because doctors must jump through hoops.  Then don’t even get me started on the drug addicts who have caused major government regulation on drugs that should be easier to get for those who truly need to use them!!!

Here is some of what is required just to get the medication:

  1. You must call to request the prescription five days before you run out of it.
  2. Then when you are notified the order for the prescription is ready you must pick it up within 5 days of notification call.
  3. You are not allowed to drop it off for the pharmacy to keep until you may be ready to fill within x amount of days.  Or at least Wal-Mart Neighborhood store I use does not allow it.  So then must carry this 8″ x 11″ printout on regular copy paper and hope it does not get destroyed.

.All I want to do is get it to the pharmacy to make sure it is there and filled in time.  Which does not always mean that happens. Life happens and slows the process. I worry I am going to lose it, damage it, drug addict will see it before I get it to pharmacist and take it from me, etc. Yes, I get very paranoid about it all.  I know how much they may be worth on the street which is a lot!  And actually, I think the price on the street just went up on them. Telling you it is scary to even walk out with the filled bottle.  Maybe I worry too much about that lately?

And one time I wasn’t able to get the prescription  from doctor’s office because then it was 3 day. Oh my gosh, like a day or two late and unbelievable, they shredded the prescription! Yes! And then I was not able to get refills until a month later!

So, that meant I was without medication which keeps me from wanting to call end to all this craziness! Without the medication I tend to get super depressed! Which is not something they appear to understand.  And I want even get into the time I was taken off of it for three months due to hypertension because they thought it was affecting my readings which I assured them it was not.Even though I told them I believed it kept me from having mega depression issues and they told me it was probably controlling my depression!!! What? You take me off!!! Oh my gosh and they know what is best for me? Worried about the fact the hypertension which shows no sign of affecting my body may kill me?

Well, what about the lack of the rx which keeps me from being depressed and massively suicidal thoughts when I don’t normally have those thoughts on the medication? Nor did I think I was a person who would ever think that, isn’t that important to keep me from dying or having thoughts of ending it? Hello, people…people being the medical people… again I need those to survive this?

So what am I to say to them to get them to do what is right for me, my body, my mind, and my soul?  Soul? Yes! Cause I have very ugly thoughts about them when they even suggest they may not give them to me. I am sure I will never get to heaven if they ever push me to the point I act on those thoughts!!!  If lack of them make me want to kill myself, could it at some point make me want to kill others?  I mean really, think about it!!! So maybe you may want to rethink taking them totally away?

Yes, I get pretty angry over it.  I don’t think I would ever get angry enough to harm others.  I may harm myself though.  Harming myself has come close at times because I was considering  how and when, that’s not good.  Been to that point a couple to three times and always due to some medication needed a tweak or not having the medication I am discussing at all…like for three months!!!

Okay, I thought I was past that not having it for three months, apparently not? And I said I was not going to talk about it.  Well, I did so hmmm LOL Okay, so it may take me a while longer? LOL Will end this here because I think it is getting to long.  Also, I am sure it is boring for you.  😦

Peace and Blessings,

A Zillion and One? ha

Do you ever write a zillion, okay a slight exaggeration, a zillion different messages to people in your life and give your deep thoughts when in an off mood? Struggling with life, cancer, etc. I just had a marathon of writing them.  I wrote about 4 or 5 different people.  Did I send the messages to the person(s), no.  I can’t ever decide if I want them to see or if I just want them to see it after I pass away? These messages don’t have my feelings or at least not bad feelings about them in it. It just my thoughts and emotions about what is going on with me and my body or maybe with someone else but I know the other person will probably not see it.

So how about if I put one of those unsent messages here and maybe one or more of you might answer it.  “Do you have thoughts of letting life slip from you? Do you have thoughts of being lonely even sometimes when with others and not alone?  My thoughts are overwhelming tonight.  I just want to know if this might be normal in our life with illness.   I don’t feel and hardly ever have felt I fit into this life.  I never have fit this life.  I never have fit this life so maybe God is helping with that?  He is making or has made the decision, I can’t for myself.  I no longer feel I want to live this life.”

Hmmm Maybe you see why I didn’t send it to my brother who has Follicular Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma.  He is in remission which is like telling people, “He is healthy and has no cancer and has had no cancer.”  Again another exaggeration, but the non-cancer public take the medical term “remission” to mean they are cancer fee and will stay cancer free because they are in remission.  It is so far from the truth for some.  Right?  My brother is at 6 year point of remission and that is great.  What others don’t know and sometimes he does not share with anyone, he has had other cancers, like skin cancer.

So see, even though he has been free of Follicular Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma for six years, he has had others. Which I am unable to say for sure what he has had because he tends to keep it to himself.  Maybe because he has a sister who does not know to keep it to herself.  I may have to write on that another time.

What I have heard is a lot of the cancer patients don’t even like telling people they are in remission.  Another reason for that is they still struggle daily from the effects of just having the cancer and having taken treatments.  The treatments kick you in the behind and even just having the cancer kicks!  Just by having the cancer cells I am finding it is enough to kick you to the corner and back or more. Energy is a big issue when cells are growing and or living in your body.

This is weirder for or to me because I am on the Watch and Wait form of treatment for now. People hear Watch and Wait so they think it is as if there is no cancer if they are watching it.  They know it might become something but do they really think past the Watch and Wait?  They don’t, if you ask me, they can just think the person will be okay if they don’t think past what that might mean. They don’t have to face it! Is more what it may be about than anything.

As a W&W patient, it’s not that simple.  Is anything about cancer ever simple? I mean I am on W&W and since I have Chronic Lymphocyte Leukemia (CLL) & Small Lymphocyte Lymphoma (SLL) there are chances of secondary cancers in any part of your body with just the CLL and two?  Which means my body may attack at any time and it does.  I have lymph cells that swell and reduce almost constantly. Lymph nodules that are moving and should they be moving?  Should they be swelling up?  Will they go down before they become a problem?  No, they shouldn’t be changing like this is healthy cells but are we looking at healthy cells?  Nope.

Next, the spleen is another issue and mine is on the ledge of being abnormal but can fall off that ledge at any time and become very much not normal.  And there are so many other issues that pop up like the possibility of getting flu, and zillion, ha another exaggeration, LOL zillion other infections and other illnesses which may be the one that takes you and not the cancer.  Even if the cancer is the reason your immune system was down enough to allow you to contact these infections and illnesses if they are the reason you pass then the cancer will not be.  Crazy, right? It is to me. IT’S ALL about the CANCER.

Peace and Blessings,

Where to Start?

Welcome to CCC’s first true post. I am new to the “Cancer” club which I did not choose to join and have been rather forced to join. It is not a club one has any choice over doing.  This does not mean I have not been indirectly affected or effected by cancer, more on that later.

It has been very difficult for me to know what this blog should entail and what the format should be. Why was and is posting on this blog so hard for me? Why do I procrastinate on posting anything? Why am I making this so hard?

Well, I feel a big responsibility to the readers and myself so feel very unsure “Where to Start”.  Am I taking on to big of a venture? I really don’t know, I just feel the need to do so. Why then has it become so hard just to write, post, start? My main concern is being a supportive outlet for others who may be at times as confused as myself! So this post is a start at writing and posting to just see where it leads.

First, I am undecided what the format should be. Should it be about my own adventures with cancer? Should it be about what I learn through research? Should it be more structured or just whatever comes up as it comes up? I may be able to answer that last question, definitely not structured in any way. I am not very good with structure. While I am better at just going where the wind of thoughts take me. Should it be a big mixture of input, output?

So then how does this become a supportive blog which will give and offer support needed by all of us? Not just myself but the readers too.  Should I just start with sharing my thoughts and hopefully others will join in with their own feedback and suggestions? I feel I must just post what comes into my mind so the blogs will start. Rather it be good or bad and allow the site to dictate what myself and the readers need and want. It will evolve as it should in time, right?  The bottom line is I just need to start and keep it moving because if I wait till I have all or some of the answers to my questions then I will never post a thing.

Now with that said I will work on a new post based on what comes to mind.  Please, feel free to let me hear from you on your thoughts and what you need for support.

Thanks for being here and please, return often.